Should couples write their own vows or take the generic repeated vow?!

[King Belieal]

One of the things about myself is that I don't always like to say what I can't do. And I have made up my mind that if I am going to marry, I would have to write my own vows which would obviously contain only the things I can do in the marriage with no exaggeration or assumptions.

I think repeating those generic vows puts a burden of responsibility on you even when you are sure you can't do it.

Would you prefer the undoable generic vows or prefer to use your own doable vow?

 

[Starmix]

I'm single dunno what to do about it but for sure in marriage there's a vow you and your love must pledge and the witness is the living God. As long as you're faithful and love true there's no need to use generic or doable vow because you might fail on your promises.

 

[aninditasen]

One of the things about myself is that I don't always like to say what I can't do. And I have made up my mind that if I am going to marry, I would have to write my own vows which would obviously contain only the things I can do in the marriage with no exaggeration or assumptions.

I think repeating those generic vows puts a burden of responsibility on you even when you are sure you can't do it.

Would you prefer the undoable generic vows or prefer to use your own doable vow?

Marriage is a relationship where you have to make some kind of adjustments but not to the extent of harming yourself. I have led 34years of married life and did make adjustments and made changes in my husband's nature too.

 

[Augusta]

Well, vows need to kept and it is good to take the ones you can keep. So the best bet will be to write yours and keep to it as promised.

 

[Kirubel]

The partners should write their own vows, vows are words in our heart that we say it out out loud, so we need to write it our self.

 

[klassicdoll]

I prefer having my own. Vows should be sacred and come from our own hearts, so if it is a generic repeated vow, then the essence of heartily spoken vows at weddings will be gone.

 

[eLdavis]

I doubt there is any law that says the couples must be the ones to write it themselves or if they are to use a readymade one. I think it depends on the couples thetmselves.

 

[Spontaneo]

I want my husband-to-be and myself to write our own vows. For example,. instead of "till death do us part", how about "from now and forever".

 

[King Belieal]

I would write my own vows stating the that I love what I know and believe that what I don't know would be what I would be able to withstand. I won't do that richer, poorer thing.